Nobody trains to get a bad habit, so smoking isn’t a bad habit. It may be unhealthy, but it was not bad at the time you started doing it - because you wanted to do it.
It does not really matter, because, in fact, with self hypnosis we can stop it without taking any drugs. Yes, that’s right; it is possible that you can stop smoking in an hour easily if you really wanted to.
If you want to get a habit – say you want to ride a bike – you have to consciously think and practice putting your feet on the pedals, your hands on the handle bars and then try to balance. If you carry on doing that enough times, your subconscious mind will take it on board and you no longer have to think about what your feet and hands are doing. You are able to think about what is happening on the road and see what’s happening because your subconscious does the automatic stuff.
Nobody trains to get a bad habit, so smoking isn’t a bad habit. It may be unhealthy, but it was not bad at the time you started doing it – because you wanted to do it. It was a cool thing to do, relaxing and fun. By the time it had become a habit and you decided that you did not want to continue doing it, it was very hard to stop because you had already programmed the habit to be there. That is when it becomes a bad habit for you.
And if you could easily stop habits, then suppose you were driving along in the middle of traffic and you suddenly lost the habit of driving? Can you imagine how dangerous that would be? So, that is the reason why habits are maintained and not given up easily.
It’s all about practice
How you get into a habit is that you practice it. Likewise, how you get out of a habit is that you practice it as well. That is why you have a problem – because your subconscious mind is preventing you from changing until it makes certain that you are ready to change.
As already mentioned, the subconscious does not make a judgement on whether a habit is good or bad. As far as the subconscious is concerned, its job is to hold on to habits regardless, until the conscious has practised you out of the habit. And that would be a lot of hard work wouldn’t it!
Now, with a cigarette smoker who tries to give up smoking, the subconscious is nudging them to carry on smoking.
You have probably done it yourself; you have probably decided to stop, but when it is time for your next cigarette, the conscious mind then comes in and says that it is not good to smoke, it is dangerous and it will probably kill you.
The conscious mind is giving you reasons why you should stop smoking, whilst the subconscious nudges “must smoke now” and continues with the urge for a cigarette.
It is important to know that a habit can be formed at any time in life. Say for instance, tomorrow you decide to start eating a chocolate bar before going to bed each night and you repeat that every night.
Eventually it would become a habit and you would expect to have your chocolate bar every night. One night, some time later, suppose you went to the fridge and the chocolate box was empty you would probably be a little irritated because now the subconscious is providing the urge to have the chocolate bar. This because the habit has now been formed.
In hypnosis, we go into the subconscious filing system and replace the satisfaction with something more beneficial to you. It could be something as simple as deep breathing for relaxation, exercising, hobbies or enhancing your self-confidence.
The satisfaction has to be taken away from the cigarettes and transferred to something that is more advantageous, to remove the cigarettes without taking away anything that is enjoyable
Once the reasons and satisfaction has been removed from the cigarette, you can actually see the cigarette for what it really is, a wolf in sheep’s clothing or coffin nails. Previously, you had looked at the cigarette and it looked harmless. Now, you can see it in its true light as a poison or disease. In fact, the smell and taste of the cigarette is disgustingly different now.
Julian is a London trained subconscious specialist with Hypno-Station. He is Malaysia’s most renowned clinical hypnotherapist, media personality, columnist, event host and book author. He can be contacted at [email protected].