Unfortunately, it’s something that we will all have to deal with at some point in our lives. Losing a loved one can be an incredibly tough experience, especially if they are close family or friends.
Sharing your thoughts and feelings with friends and family is one of the healthy ways to deal with emotions. Bottling them up can feel good at the time but it often just makes things worse.
Here is how you can deal with your grief in a healthy way.
One of the things that can help when coping with grief is accepting your feelings. Grief will not all come all at once and will likely be spread over days, weeks or even months. Whenever you feel emotions coming up, it’s always best to accept them and let them out.
If you are with friends or family, they will more than understand, and it can sometimes be nice to have someone with you to share these feelings with.
When people think of feelings associated with grief, they may think of sadness, numbness, tiredness, and exhaustion. These are all common, but sometimes people can experience other feelings based on the circumstances of someone’s death.
People may feel anger or resentment if crime or medical negligence are involved.
Deal with grief
Accepting and letting your feelings out is a really positive way to deal with grief. In addition, there are a number of other activities that can help, which include:
• Keep up your routine: Sticking to a routine that you have helps you get through the day. It can be useful to segment the day into different chunks which will help you feel like you have accomplished something.
Doing simple tasks like housework or cooking a meal will help to keep you occupied.
• Do light exercise: Exercise releases endorphins that help you feel happy and gives you more energy. Even going out for a short jog or a light walk will help to release these hormones.
It also helps to get out of the house. Exercise gives you a reason to get out of the house and gives you something to focus on while you are out.
• Keep doing the things you love: If you love cooking, then bake some cakes for the local community. If you love going to clubs or interest groups like gardening or singing it might be good to keep attending these when you feel ready to.
Doing these activities will help to keep you occupied, and it’s a good opportunity to socialise with people that you already know.
• Go for counselling: This may not be for everyone, so it’s important to only do this if you feel it’s right for you.
Finding a good counsellor helps you get in touch with your feelings and share them with someone who is trained to help you deal with them in a healthy and positive way.
The experience of grief and bereavement varies from person to person.You may not realise it straight away, but soon you will discover what is best for you, if you allow your inner wisdom to guide you.
It is best to avoid blocking your bereavement process by holding on to negative thoughts. When you notice these thoughts and feelings, do acknowledge them.
You do not expect the storm to last forever. You may have to do some repairs and some things that you love will be destroyed, but you will survive.
Dennis Relojo-Howell is the world’s first blog psychologist and founder of Psychreg. As an international mental health advocate, he speaks at various conferences around the world.