Why you shouldn’t let money define you

Never let a craving for wealth change the naturally kind person you are within. (Rawpixel pic)

You’ve been warned time and again of the proverbial phrase, “too much of a good thing” to help you avoid any unhealthy extremes in life. However, if you had all the money in the world, would this be considered a bad thing?

Money throughout the ages has often been the root of so much evil and bad blood. There are so many permutations and faces of money whether it’s greed, power, politics at work, or the fear of not having enough.

Have you noticed how many times you’ve heard of someone lending money to another in genuine need but never getting it paid back?

Sadly, it’s the ones you trust the most, who are closest to you that could end up disappointing you, when it comes to money.

Everyone seems to be your best friend when they need money but they are nowhere to be found when it comes to paying their debts. Money can be the quickest way to ruin a friendship completely.

It’s tragic how the reading of wills can drive families apart. They stop talking to each other to the point that they almost refuse to acknowledge any longer that the other even exists.

There was once a local family who’s parents willed most of their assets to their favourite son, who was the high achiever and “golden boy” in their eyes. The parents left behind much less for their younger son who was in a lower income bracket.

No matter how wealthy and successful you are, always remember to treasure family and friends above all else. (Rawpixel pic)

It was remarkably touching how the older and more successful brother parted with a part of his own inheritance when his younger brother was in financial trouble, years after the parents’ death.

Despite his younger brother always having his differences with their late parents, these brothers stuck together through thick and thin, never allowing money to get in the way.

In later years when the richer brother had a terminal health scare, it was his younger brother who stood by him and his family, when moral support was what he needed the most. The younger brother even offered to take care of his brother’s kids.

It’s stories like that, which make one celebrate the human spirit and truly understand what even their parents did not live by, “that blood was thicker than water”. Money should never define you.

It’s a means to an end, and a tool for survival or the access pass to a certain lifestyle but your actions speak volumes about the sort of person you are.

Money is essentially pieces of paper that can be made, traded and lost in an instant but real relationships and bonds are priceless and can last a lifetime.

Jojo Struys is a regional TV host, speaker and wellness personality. She is also the founder of OhanaJo Studio, Malaysia’s largest yoga and sound healing space.