4 ways to stay mentally resilient in life

Believing you have control over your life goes a long way in helping you navigate the rough spots along the way. (Rawpixel pic)

Have you ever noticed how some people are able to go with the flow and stride through life with ease amidst unpredictable events while others struggle to cope with changes, challenges and negative situations?

What makes them react so differently to life events? Aside from biological make-up, there are various other psychological and social factors that can have a huge impact.

Mental resilience is the mental process of being able to adapt well in the face of adversity, challenges and various sources of stress by using positive mental processes in order to protect an individual from the negative effects of these challenges.

How does one become mentally resilient?

1. Aim for specific goals

Begin your journey with effective SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-based) goals to aim for.

Setting long-term goals can help you see past short-term pitfalls that may occur along the journey.

Keep your goals small to help you become more focused on specific goals and not overwhelmed with the board themes of goals.

Ask yourself every day, “What can I do ‘TODAY’ to get closer to these goals?”

Identify doable tasks that you can achieve on a day-to-day basis that will eventually help you achieve your goals in the future.

2. Always give others the benefit of the doubt

Before reacting to any personal attack, give others the benefit of the doubt by checking if it is really intended or merely an unintentional mistake.

Always look at the bigger picture and focus on your passion and purpose here on earth.

This helps make the negativity you see around you seem so much smaller and less worth paying attention to while you focus on achieving your goals in life.

Celebrate achievements and analyse failures so you can learn the value behind these experiences. (Rawpixel pic)

3. Celebrate small and big wins but also acknowledge and analyse past mistakes

Self-validation and encouragement are important to help you keep moving forward.

It would be somewhat difficult to be encouraging and positive to those around you if you are not compassionate and positive towards yourself. Yet, at the same time be genuine with yourself and acknowledge past mistakes. This will then pave the way for an effective contingency plan.

Reflect and cherish positive experiences while learning from negative ones. Keeping a journal will help remind you of your positive reflections. This will in turn help keep you mentally resilient, while the negative reflections will help keep you grounded.

4. Foster an internal locus of control

Fostering an internal locus of control (the extent to which you believe you have some degree of control over the outcome of circumstances in your life) will give you a higher level of grit in the face of challenges and adversity.

This can be achieved through the realisation that although there are many things that occur in life which are beyond your control, there is also a large number of things that you have some degree of control over.

Recognising this will motivate you to take effective steps to overcome the challenges you may face in life. This will also help you strengthen your assertiveness and help make it easier for you to say “No” at the right times.

Life can be like a roller-coaster. During the highs, enjoy the sights and during the lows, hold on tight. Whatever you do never lose your might because in the end, everything’s going to be alright.

This article was written in collaboration with Naluri and published on Hello Doktor. The Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.