4 ways to deal with grief when someone you love dies

A professional counsellor can help you work through feelings of grief and begin the healing process. (Rawpixel pic)

While death is inevitable, it often sneaks up on us without warning. When you are faced with dealing with the aftermath of the death of someone close to you, it can be difficult to handle the grief and still juggle your other responsibilities.

1. See a counsellor

Sometimes the sudden death of a family member can throw you into a shock that’s hard to escape from on your own. If you find that you are struggling with coping with the death, find someone to speak to about how you feel.

Friends and family can be great listeners. However, it may be uncomfortable to approach them with how you are feeling or you may not want to burden them with how you feel.

A professional counsellor can help you work through your feelings and begin the healing process.

Counsellors don’t necessarily have to be psychologists or psychiatrists; you can also seek help from individuals in your religious community or a leader who will be able to help you through your hard time.

2: Get legal advice

After a death has occurred, many matters must be handled that involve legal knowledge that you may not be aware of. To ease the stress associated with managing these issues, a lawyer can be hired.

Estate taxes, inheritances, and insurance are essential elements of the legal side of matters that are often too complicated for the average person the handle.

To ensure that you do not make any mistakes while handling these issues, consult with a legal professional and hand over issues you can’t resolve on your own.

After the death of a family member, get a lawyer to handle issues like estate taxes, inheritances, and insurance. (Rawpixel pic)

In cases where inheritance is allotted in a will or through the mandate of the state, there can occasionally be civil disputes among family members and relatives who do not agree with the particular method of division or the recipient.

The counsel of a lawyer would be ideal to prevent these situations from arising.

3: Consult with a financial advisor

The need for financial advice after death is as important as the need for legal advice.

If the person that has died was contributing to your household, you might be left in financial turmoil at the loss of income.

Deaths require funeral and burial services, which are incredibly expensive and can quickly drain a savings account or be costly enough to need a loan to cover.

Financial advisors help to keep you within your budget and help to set up realistic saving goals for you in the future.

Managing the money that you have currently, and learning to manage any money that comes in from inheritance or insurance policies is essential in ensuring that you do not go bankrupt within the first year of your loved one’s death.

Spending money on an advisor may seem counterproductive. However, the information that they supply you and the services they perform are more than worth the fee they will charge for their knowledge.

4: Reach out to friends and family

When you are grieving the loss of someone you love, there is no comfort like the comfort of your friends and family.

Death causes pain. However, it also draws in people to stand together to face it as a unit.

If someone you love has passed away, leaning on your family and friends can help you transition into living your life without this person by helping you remember them in a healthy way.

Taking up a hobby and returning to life as normally as you can, helps create a semblance of structure that you can continue following until you have begun the healing process.

Take a vacation or spend some time at home focusing on channelling your grief and finding a way to fight through it. Remember that your family and friends are here to help you as you deal with the aftermath.

This article first appeared in The New Savvy.

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