Bad parents should not transfer their shame to kids

art-harun-child-marriageBy Azhar “Art” Harun

Some thoughts about child marriage.

I think young girls who have consensual sex at, for example, 9 or 10 and who may even get pregnant should not be married off. This is regardless of whether they already look like Scarlett Johansson or Mila Kunis.

Same goes with the young boy who is the partner.

They should be counselled. And educated. They should continue going to school and continue to study like every other girl and boy of that age.

For the parents to argue that their kids should thus be married off to avoid embarrasment or to preserve honour is selfish and irresponsible.

In the first place, it was because of the parents’ irresponsibility that their kids were playing rabbits on heat at such a young age. Yes. They should be ashamed of themselves for being complete failures in bringing up their kids.

I can’t see the logic of transferring this shame from themselves to their kid by marrying their daughter off to the boy who had committed statutory rape on her. What sort of parents are these?

I don’t buy the argument that by marrying the young kids off at a young age, they would be prevented from committing illicit sexual relationship(s).

Really? If parents could not stop their young kids from having sex and getting pregnant at a young age, why would they think they could prevent their kids from committing the same act with other kids after they are married off?

I mean, kids do all sorts of stuff when they are at that age. So, using that logic, if a 11-year-old boy takes his dad’s car for a spin and gets involved in an accident, should we give him a driving licence so that he doesn’t drive illegally anymore after that?

Sorry, but I don’t see the logic in that.

Azhar “Art” Harun is a lawyer.

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