When it comes to marriage, no one is an expert. It takes more than two people’s initiative to see the union of two personalities joined by marriage and living together, thrive through good and bad times.
If you are new to it, perhaps you’ve already learned that after the wedding ceremony, the road ahead has been somewhat bumpy.
Marriage demands more than the usual romantic dinner dates and surprise gifts.
Most marriages that can claim to have a strong foundation are built on the hard work and commitment of the two individuals who are in it for the long haul.
However, most couples usually find they are not ready to squeeze these demands into their new lives. This is where most conflicts in marriage arise, leading to cases of divorce.
It’s normal to encounter a problem or two in marriage that you may not view as a big issue.
This usually happens if you don’t spend enough time together as a couple. It may also serve as an indication of serious marital issues ahead.
This is why counselling for couples is encouraged – it acts as a means to put down stronger roots instead of administering quick fixes that don’t address the core issues of contention.
Importance of marriage counselling
When you get married, it’s unlikely that you considered the potential for divorce or the need for marriage counselling down the road.
However, maintaining a healthy marriage and solving marital problems will take more than the wedding vows you made.
Below are reasons why you may need counselling more than you thought.
- A different viewpoint
Seeking counsel as a couple helps you get a view of what’s happening in your marriage. Most couple’s counsellors work to provide a greater perspective on the situation of your marriage.
While you may be deeply buried in disagreements and a deeper disconnection, counselling brings a different viewpoint.
This is key for finding a solution that helps get to the bottom of the problem. A couple’s counsellor brings experience and outside expertise that is incredibly advantageous in tackling marital problems.
- Beneficial insights
The work of a couple’s counsellor is not only confined to solving problems. They also help you learn a lot from their experience and advice outside of their office.
This includes giving you tips and tools to use all through your married life.
- Tools for better communication
Some grant you good approaches you can improve on towards creating better communication and connection with your spouse.
They may also suggest helpful routines that can help make your relationship more conscious. These tips and insights could serve as a foundation on which you can build a new lasting relationship.
Final thoughts
Sometimes things may get tough and murky, resulting in your marriage falling apart at the seams.
This is where you owe yourselves some time off with a couple’s counsellor. Most counsellors are not there to judge. Their work is to help you and your spouse figure things out amicably.
Dennis Relojo-Howell is the founder of Psychreg and host of The DRH Show. You can connect with him on Twitter @drelojo_howell